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My Guilty Pleasure

I recently watched the movie I Don't Know How She Does It. I found it entertaining and irritating all at once. I really don't know how the working mom does it. If her husband is not doing at least half of what I do as a stay at home mom for the family, I see why people end up divorced. This movie probably irritated me because of where I am in life.

I am an over-educated stay at home mom. I have been in the college classroom longer than I actually worked in my degree field. I do struggle with this fact more than a normal person should struggle with a silly fact of life. Life is about choices and I made my choices. I had the opportunity to go back to college with tuition paid to get my masters degree. I was newly married with no kids. Carpe Diem!  For two years of my life, two days a week I went to class. When I graduated I was three months pregnant. I never went back to working outside the house once I had our first of three kids.  You can only imagine the guilt that one has when they have the potential to make a decent salary and chooses to not be in the work force. My degree is my back up plan.  If I ever need it, I have it.  It is my wage earning potential and insurance.

I have three children that are now all school aged children and I send them to public school. I can hear some of you out there gasping for air. I still have no desire to go back to work and quite honesty just don't see how everything would get done for our family if I worked too. Unless of course I paid someone to do what I wouldn't be able to do during my time working. Again I feel guilty for sending my kids to school each day to learn and I still do not work outside of my home. Although I have plenty to do while they are gone.

In the movie the stay at home mom was being interviewed in the gym while working out. She was going on and on about how the other working mom she said to her trainer something along the lines of,  "I get here at about 8 AM, right? and I leave everyday by 3."  WHAT?  The stay at home mom is portrayed as going to the gym 6 hours a day, everyday. This made me mad for days.  I am sure there is a mom out there that might have the means to do this but really Hollywood?  I'm I that shallow to you? So vain that I don't work or do chores?   I just drop off the kids and go workout.......Oy vey!

As a stay at home mom I would love to list everything I do.  Not to say there are working women out there that don't do more than me.  I am sure there are working single parents that do oodles more than I do.  I know there are women that could run circles around me.  I just loath the portrayal of the stay at home mom.

This is the choice we have made for our family.  My guilty pleasure in life is being a stay at home mom.  I am blessed and I love my freedom.  I get to tutor at my kids school for 4 + hours a week.  I am a library volunteer for one afternoon a month, I can go on every field trip, eat lunch with my kids or husband any day of the week, and set aside days to craft, read or even blog.

To my husband that goes to work each day and brings home every penny so we can live this life,  thank you!  Without him my day to day wouldn't be possible.

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